A few years ago as a new stay-at-home mom I was struggling with my identity in a big way. I happily left my corporate life behind but quickly felt like MOM was my only identity. Don't get me wrong - being a mom is my most important and cherished role and it will ALWAYS come first....but it was still a shock to my system. I went from being surrounded by people, challenging work, stimulating conversation, making a good salary - - to isolation and sleepless nights with 2 kids under 2. It was HARD and I was lost. Enter zoloft.... I never would have guessed that I would find myself in the way I did. That getting healthy would launch a whole business and open a world of opportunities. It was WAY outside of my introverted little comfort zone but I did it and went all in. It's been messy and complicated and perfectly imperfect, but I wouldn't trade a minute of it. .
Guess what??? I fought my way out of a pretty dark place and my identity has evolved. It's no longer tied to my role as a mother *GASP*. I felt guilty writing that, and immediately tried to think of how to "soften" it because someone would take offense, but that's ridiculous!! I get to be a mom, and that's my favorite role, but I also get to be a lot of other things that bring me joy! I'm also a wife, a friend, an athlete, a business owner, a CEO, a leader, a student, a mentor, a volunteer. Wanting MORE doesn't make me any less of a mother....it just makes me happy and well rounded. .
So I'm not saying I have achieved perfect balance between work, motherhood, etc. because I'm still not sure that exists. I'm always working on it, but in the meantime I'm fulfilled AND my kids get to see me wearing all of these colorful hats. .
If you find something that lights YOUR soul on fire you GO FOR IT. Don't doubt yourself or what-if yourself to death. Just DO IT, and figure the details out along the way! - 2 hours ago