#attachmentstyles

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When it comes to the way we relate to others, do we know why we do what we do?  Are we repeating the same pattern of behaviour, thinking that our intuition is telling us this is a 'normal' way to respond when really we are acting out of a fear based coping mechanism (e.g. pushing people away, wearing a mask)? Are we assuming the future will be like the past? (Being cheated on & assuming that nobody can be trusted, thinking everyone will leave because of past abandonment etc) Is there a lens we see other people through that stops us really seeing what's in front of us (seeing green flags this person CAN be trusted etc) 
Trauma 💔
-fear based
-often feels like an urgent need to do something (emotional emergency) - sometimes conclusions made flip-flop between polarities (yes/no?) (excitement/dread) (close/pull away) etc
-self protective, to defend from emotional hurt - overthinks and creates complex survival strategies (what if? I need to have all the possibilities thought out) 
Intuition 💖 - love based - has the patience to take time to form (okay with saying 'I'm not sure yet but the signs look positive so I'll keep going)
- conclusions formed are calm, stable and ongoing (e.g you still hold that opinion weeks / months  later)
- less need to protect self emotionally (I'll make the best decision with the information I have but even if things don't go ideally I'll be okay)
- responds with simplicity (e.g. I think that this person may not have my best intentions at heart but I don't need to panic, I'll just distance myself) 
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When it comes to the way we relate to others, do we know why we do what we do? Are we repeating the same pattern of behaviour, thinking that our intuition is telling us this is a 'normal' way to respond when really we are acting out of a fear based coping mechanism (e.g. pushing people away, wearing a mask)? Are we assuming the future will be like the past? (Being cheated on & assuming that nobody can be trusted, thinking everyone will leave because of past abandonment etc) Is there a lens we see other people through that stops us really seeing what's in front of us (seeing green flags this person CAN be trusted etc) Trauma 💔 -fear based -often feels like an urgent need to do something (emotional emergency) - sometimes conclusions made flip-flop between polarities (yes/no?) (excitement/dread) (close/pull away) etc -self protective, to defend from emotional hurt - overthinks and creates complex survival strategies (what if? I need to have all the possibilities thought out) Intuition 💖 - love based - has the patience to take time to form (okay with saying 'I'm not sure yet but the signs look positive so I'll keep going) - conclusions formed are calm, stable and ongoing (e.g you still hold that opinion weeks / months later) - less need to protect self emotionally (I'll make the best decision with the information I have but even if things don't go ideally I'll be okay) - responds with simplicity (e.g. I think that this person may not have my best intentions at heart but I don't need to panic, I'll just distance myself) #healingfromwithin #healingyourself #healingispossible #selfhealers #innerwork #shadowworker #emotionalhealth #emotionalregulation #relationshipissues #relationshipproblems #relationshipcoach #relationshipmatters #relationshiptalk #consciousrelationships #relationships #relationshiptips #relationship101 #relationshiptalk #relationshiphelp #relationshipadvice #relationshiprules #relationships #attachmentstyles #attachmenttrauma #healingfromtrauma #emotionalskills - 3 hours ago

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I yearned for soft, gentle, kind words of validation. I was waiting for someone to come along and validate my feelings, confusion, hardships, and perseverance.⁣⁣⁣
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I learned to think that I am worthless unless someone else finds me worthy of love. Single at the age of 26, I felt ashamed. I was waiting for someone to rescue me, claim me as his own, and remove my self-doubts. ⁣⁣
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These are the thoughts of an anxiously attached woman - the victim identity that I’ve outgrown.⁣
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Single at age 33, I feel content and joyful. I live each day working towards greater alignment with my highest self, continuously sharpening my mind and softening my heart. So grateful for the gift of life. 🙏🏼♥️

I yearned for soft, gentle, kind words of validation. I was waiting for someone to come along and validate my feelings, confusion, hardships, and perseverance.⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ I learned to think that I am worthless unless someone else finds me worthy of love. Single at the age of 26, I felt ashamed. I was waiting for someone to rescue me, claim me as his own, and remove my self-doubts. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ These are the thoughts of an anxiously attached woman - the victim identity that I’ve outgrown.⁣ ⁣ Single at age 33, I feel content and joyful. I live each day working towards greater alignment with my highest self, continuously sharpening my mind and softening my heart. So grateful for the gift of life. 🙏🏼♥️ - 6 hours ago

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We are living in the battle of constant trauma!

And a codependent response is protective. If you are existing in trauma, including the collective trauma that is a very real part of the existence of BIPOC in a hostile societal environment, and sometimes also in hostile homes, you are carrying multiple generations of trauma.

Our trauma is real. Our people are resilient, but at what cost? Sometimes the cost is coping practices that don’t serve is well.

Yes, this is a repost, yet an important one to highlight.
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We are living in the battle of constant trauma! And a codependent response is protective. If you are existing in trauma, including the collective trauma that is a very real part of the existence of BIPOC in a hostile societal environment, and sometimes also in hostile homes, you are carrying multiple generations of trauma. Our trauma is real. Our people are resilient, but at what cost? Sometimes the cost is coping practices that don’t serve is well. Yes, this is a repost, yet an important one to highlight. 〰️ FREE YOUR MIND 〰️ #collectivehealing #collectivetrauma #worldmentalhealthday #relationships #therapy #toxicrelationships #relationshiptherapy #empath #intuitivehealer #attachment #healing #attachmenttherapy #attachmentstyles #therapytools #attachmenttheory #relationshipquotes #selflove #anxiousattachment #therapysession #healingjourney #traumarecovery #codependency #attachmenttrauma #selfhealers #selfcare #selfhelp #blackmentalhealth Reposted from @marielbuque - 6 hours ago

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Single laundo ka dukh mai smjh skta hu 🙁🙁🙁🙁 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Koi ni bacho apne din bhi aayenge 😝😝
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Single laundo ka dukh mai smjh skta hu 🙁🙁🙁🙁 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Koi ni bacho apne din bhi aayenge 😝😝 .. . . . . .. . . .. . .#love #kiss #attachmentstyles #relationshipgoals #teenagers #models #followforfollowback #young #people #beautifulgirls #relationshipquotes - 6 hours ago

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Visit us today ♥️ #attachmentstyles #blackgirlmagic#beautiful #black #braids #blackboldandnatural #blondehair #blackwome #naturalhaircommunity #naturalhairstyle #haircolor #hair #haironfleak #hairinspiration #hairstylist #hairstyles  #africanhairstyles #hairgoals #hairstyling #haironfleak #hairart #gingerhair #hairtrends2019 #hairlove #ebonygoddess👑  #ebonywomen #prechfleakytouch #fleakyhairstyle

Visit us today ♥️ #attachmentstyles #blackgirlmagic #beautiful #black #braids #blackboldandnatural #blondehair #blackwome #naturalhaircommunity #naturalhairstyle #haircolor #hair #haironfleak #hairinspiration #hairstylist #hairstyles #africanhairstyles #hairgoals #hairstyling #haironfleak #hairart #gingerhair #hairtrends2019 #hairlove #ebonygoddess 👑 #ebonywomen #prechfleakytouch #fleakyhairstyle - 7 hours ago

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Being aware of any #negative experiences you had is important in understanding your areas for growth and healing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
So what are some typical negative scenarios we may have experienced when we were young and how might we recognise those patterns in our lives today? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#1 - Maybe your parents #neglected you or were unavailable due to working long hours or because they were unwell. So, now as an adult you may be prone to attracting similarly #distant partners in your relationships. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#2 - If a parent was quick to anger or had a bad #temper, you could have learned to walk on eggshells and be so self-sufficient that you didn’t need any parenting. Today you can feel #anxious in relationships or you or your partner are prone to explosions. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#3 - If one of your parents was quite #critical of you, you may be attracted to partners who find #fault with you and are rarely satisfied, while you struggle to feel good enough. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#4 - If your parents struggled to #parent you, maybe you grew up too fast and had to parent your parents. Now in your adult life, you find yourself with huge responsibility – over others, in your job and in #providing for others. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Since you are so used to being in a certain role within your family, you #unconsciously today continue to find partners that keep you in that role. So, unless you become aware of and shift your #patterns, you will continue to live out the same negative emotional experiences that you experienced as a young child. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Visit charissecooke.com for more on my series on #AttachmentStyles or enrol in my Online Relationship Course right here (http://bit.ly/TheRelationshipCourse). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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#healthyrelationships #relationshipexpert #relationshipadvice #relationshiphelp #relationshipcounselling #marriagecounseling #marriagetips #marriagecoach #marriagecounselling #marriagegoals

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Being aware of any #negative experiences you had is important in understanding your areas for growth and healing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So what are some typical negative scenarios we may have experienced when we were young and how might we recognise those patterns in our lives today? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #1 - Maybe your parents #neglected you or were unavailable due to working long hours or because they were unwell. So, now as an adult you may be prone to attracting similarly #distant partners in your relationships. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #2 - If a parent was quick to anger or had a bad #temper , you could have learned to walk on eggshells and be so self-sufficient that you didn’t need any parenting. Today you can feel #anxious in relationships or you or your partner are prone to explosions. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #3 - If one of your parents was quite #critical of you, you may be attracted to partners who find #fault with you and are rarely satisfied, while you struggle to feel good enough. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #4 - If your parents struggled to #parent you, maybe you grew up too fast and had to parent your parents. Now in your adult life, you find yourself with huge responsibility – over others, in your job and in #providing for others. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Since you are so used to being in a certain role within your family, you #unconsciously today continue to find partners that keep you in that role. So, unless you become aware of and shift your #patterns , you will continue to live out the same negative emotional experiences that you experienced as a young child. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Visit charissecooke.com for more on my series on #AttachmentStyles or enrol in my Online Relationship Course right here (http://bit.ly/TheRelationshipCourse). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #TheRelationshipCourse #YourOnlineTherapist #AdultAttachmentTheory ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #healthyrelationships #relationshipexpert #relationshipadvice #relationshiphelp #relationshipcounselling #marriagecounseling #marriagetips #marriagecoach #marriagecounselling #marriagegoals - 8 hours ago

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Last night I had a guidance session with a client and it reminded me of the true power of presence. 
Deep wounds can be held and healed when we allow someone else to be present with us. 
When I work as a clinician, I have to turn many things off- but presence always remains. When I work as a healing guide, I get to bring two powerful realms together. It is the unseen energetic dance between my clients and myself, that creates space for warmth and healing. Synergy, that serves everyone in the experience, because healing is a ripple. 
It is an honor to walk alongside others- as the clinician or as the healing guide and I deeply value the gifts that I have been given to share with others. 
I am grateful for the opportunity to bring two worlds closer together. I am grateful for the space. I am grateful for you, reading this✨
#healingguide #therapistsofinstagram #presence #partswork #innerchildwork #attachmentstyles #woundedhealer #getgrateful #intuitivegifts #collaboration #mirrors #holistichealing #holistictherapist #healingisaripple

Last night I had a guidance session with a client and it reminded me of the true power of presence. Deep wounds can be held and healed when we allow someone else to be present with us. When I work as a clinician, I have to turn many things off- but presence always remains. When I work as a healing guide, I get to bring two powerful realms together. It is the unseen energetic dance between my clients and myself, that creates space for warmth and healing. Synergy, that serves everyone in the experience, because healing is a ripple. It is an honor to walk alongside others- as the clinician or as the healing guide and I deeply value the gifts that I have been given to share with others. I am grateful for the opportunity to bring two worlds closer together. I am grateful for the space. I am grateful for you, reading this✨ #healingguide #therapistsofinstagram #presence #partswork #innerchildwork #attachmentstyles #woundedhealer #getgrateful #intuitivegifts #collaboration #mirrors #holistichealing #holistictherapist #healingisaripple - 8 hours ago

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Good ol’ Anxiety Blob. Welcome to the party, anxiety! Try welcoming emotions to the party, when you recognize they’re present. How does it shift how you feel when you remind yourself that an uncomfortable emotion is what you feel, not who you are? 
#anxiety #welcometotheparty #ease #equanimity #therapy #attachmentstyles #healing #mindfulness #trauma #recovery #cbt #feelings #emotions #leaningin

Good ol’ Anxiety Blob. Welcome to the party, anxiety! Try welcoming emotions to the party, when you recognize they’re present. How does it shift how you feel when you remind yourself that an uncomfortable emotion is what you feel, not who you are? #anxiety #welcometotheparty #ease #equanimity #therapy #attachmentstyles #healing #mindfulness #trauma #recovery #cbt #feelings #emotions #leaningin - 10 hours ago

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Great opportunity for Portland families to learn about family based adventure therapy
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We are hosting a FREE parent workshop @taborspace on Saturday December 7th from 10 am to 12pm. 
This is a great time to come out and connect with us, ask us questions, and learn about Attachment Parenting. We will talk about family therapy and discuss how it can benefit and strengthen your family. 
DM is or get more information on our website, link in the bio. 
#familytherapy #pdxtherapy #pdxtherapist #attachmentstyles #attachmentparenting #attachmenttheory #family #portlandtherapy #portlandtherapist #mentalhealth

Great opportunity for Portland families to learn about family based adventure therapy . . #repost @rooted_adventure_therapy ・・・ We are hosting a FREE parent workshop @taborspace on Saturday December 7th from 10 am to 12pm. This is a great time to come out and connect with us, ask us questions, and learn about Attachment Parenting. We will talk about family therapy and discuss how it can benefit and strengthen your family. DM is or get more information on our website, link in the bio. #familytherapy #pdxtherapy #pdxtherapist #attachmentstyles #attachmentparenting #attachmenttheory #family #portlandtherapy #portlandtherapist #mentalhealth - 14 hours ago

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Repost from @the.holistic.psychologist 
What is one thing you are working on improving right now in dealing with emotional triggers?

It’s time to be OPEN and HONEST with yourself!
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Are you having more stunted ideas vs mature ones?
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Don’t feel defeated! You can come back from this by retraining your brains in becoming emotionally mature. .
A common reason for being emotionally stunted can be from growing up with parents that were emotionally stunted. So that means Boundaries were never modeled, acknowledging and processing stressful situations weren’t addressed, and learning how to have secure emotional attachments weren’t taught. .
We aren’t blaming. Our parents did the best they could. .
Now it’s time for us to do better! Start doing the inner work so that these cycles end with us!

If you are ready to start doing the inner work to help you heal let’s set up a call today! .
Not sure if this is for you? I have a 15min FREE Consultation Call where we can discuss if this will work for you. 
#emotionallystunted #emotionallymatured #healthyboundariesarenecessary💯 #emotionaltriggers #confidentwomen #codependencyhealing #womenempowermentcoach #mentalhealthprofessional

Repost from @the.holistic.psychologist What is one thing you are working on improving right now in dealing with emotional triggers? It’s time to be OPEN and HONEST with yourself! . Are you having more stunted ideas vs mature ones? . . Don’t feel defeated! You can come back from this by retraining your brains in becoming emotionally mature. . A common reason for being emotionally stunted can be from growing up with parents that were emotionally stunted. So that means Boundaries were never modeled, acknowledging and processing stressful situations weren’t addressed, and learning how to have secure emotional attachments weren’t taught. . We aren’t blaming. Our parents did the best they could. . Now it’s time for us to do better! Start doing the inner work so that these cycles end with us! If you are ready to start doing the inner work to help you heal let’s set up a call today! . Not sure if this is for you? I have a 15min FREE Consultation Call where we can discuss if this will work for you. #emotionallystunted #emotionallymatured #healthyboundariesarenecessary 💯 #emotionaltriggers #confidentwomen #codependencyhealing #womenempowermentcoach #mentalhealthprofessional - 16 hours ago

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We are living in the battle of constant trauma!

And a codependent response is protective. If you are existing in trauma, including the collective trauma that is a very real part of the existence of BIPOC in a hostile societal environment, and sometimes also in hostile homes, you are carrying multiple generations of trauma.

Our trauma is real. Our people are resilient, but at what cost? Sometimes the cost is coping practices that don’t serve us well.

Yes, this is a repost, yet an important one to highlight.
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FREE YOUR MIND
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#collectivehealing #collectivetrauma #worldmentalhealthday #relationships #therapy #toxicrelationships #relationshiptherapy #empath #intuitivehealer #attachment #healing #attachmenttherapy #attachmentstyles #therapytools #attachmenttheory #relationshipquotes #selflove #anxiousattachment #therapysession #healingjourney #traumarecovery #codependency #attachmenttrauma #selfhealers #selfcare #selfhelp #blackmentalhealth

We are living in the battle of constant trauma! And a codependent response is protective. If you are existing in trauma, including the collective trauma that is a very real part of the existence of BIPOC in a hostile societal environment, and sometimes also in hostile homes, you are carrying multiple generations of trauma. Our trauma is real. Our people are resilient, but at what cost? Sometimes the cost is coping practices that don’t serve us well. Yes, this is a repost, yet an important one to highlight. 〰️ FREE YOUR MIND 〰️ #collectivehealing #collectivetrauma #worldmentalhealthday #relationships #therapy #toxicrelationships #relationshiptherapy #empath #intuitivehealer #attachment #healing #attachmenttherapy #attachmentstyles #therapytools #attachmenttheory #relationshipquotes #selflove #anxiousattachment #therapysession #healingjourney #traumarecovery #codependency #attachmenttrauma #selfhealers #selfcare #selfhelp #blackmentalhealth - 17 hours ago

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Sobre los “emotional affairs” 👀. Espero les sirva!
Buen fin de semana!

#emotionalaffair #emotionalaffairs #fidelidad #infidelidad #infidelidaddepareja #infidelidademocional #amigosconbeneficios #friendswithbenefits #amigosconderechos #inseguridademocional #celos #jealousy #insecurity #insecureattachment #estilosdeapego #attachmentstyles #insecureattachment

Sobre los “emotional affairs” 👀. Espero les sirva! Buen fin de semana! #emotionalaffair #emotionalaffairs #fidelidad #infidelidad #infidelidaddepareja #infidelidademocional #amigosconbeneficios #friendswithbenefits #amigosconderechos #inseguridademocional #celos #jealousy #insecurity #insecureattachment #estilosdeapego #attachmentstyles #insecureattachment - 18 hours ago

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Back and Better .
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Lots of laughter assured 
#attachmentstyles #brodashaggi @seridola #lasu #pranks #comedy @that_ekitigirl_ @mc_lively @mc_makopolo @zlatan_ibile #zfancytv @zfancytv #lagos #abuja #yahooboys #30bg @davido #kappotube @ Kappotube #asoebi #vitaly

Back and Better . . . Lots of laughter assured #attachmentstyles #brodashaggi @seridola #lasu #pranks #comedy @that_ekitigirl_ @mc_lively @mc_makopolo @zlatan_ibile #zfancytv @zfancytv #lagos #abuja #yahooboys #30bg @davido #kappotube @ Kappotube #asoebi #vitaly - 19 hours ago

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💕 Traits of the Avoidant Attachment Style 💕
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Which ones would you add?
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With Love, Marlena .
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🌟Join my Love with Clarity Facebook group for a more personal and in-depth exploration into your own attachment style🌟

💕 Traits of the Avoidant Attachment Style 💕 . . Which ones would you add? . . With Love, Marlena . . 🌟Join my Love with Clarity Facebook group for a more personal and in-depth exploration into your own attachment style🌟 - 20 hours ago

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People may try to imitate you but remember they can never be you. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Thank you 🙏🏽 thank you 🙏🏽

People may try to imitate you but remember they can never be you. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Thank you 🙏🏽 thank you 🙏🏽 - 21 hours ago

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It was amazing to connect with @createthelove on my podcast to talk about all things relationships. We spoke about how to move through breakups, the importance of boundary setting, and navigating codependency and attachment styles. I hope you find this episode as healing and supportive as I did - link in bio to listen ✨P.S. I asked Mark your questions that you submitted. Tune in to hear his answers 💛

It was amazing to connect with @createthelove on my podcast to talk about all things relationships. We spoke about how to move through breakups, the importance of boundary setting, and navigating codependency and attachment styles. I hope you find this episode as healing and supportive as I did - link in bio to listen ✨P.S. I asked Mark your questions that you submitted. Tune in to hear his answers 💛 - 21 hours ago

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Group therapy today got quite emotional. For the first time I have spoken out loud about my feelings of not having any worth. And about how sad I am that I don’t have a connection with my parents who never calls me. About how I immediately after having had a conversation with a new aquiantance start to pick myself apart.... ”Why did I say that? Did he/she think that I’m too pushy? To rude? Snarky? Not a fun person to be with?  He/she did... I probably was.... They will not like me....” I cried a bit.  Actually I cried several times.... And then we laughed a bit at the fact that, since I am avoidant, I can still open up at these meetings, because I don’t know anyone there. And nobody knows my last name or where I live or where I work. I’m completely anonymous. And then I feel secure enough to open up. They can’t use my weakness against me... I’m so untrusting. Guess I’ll have to adress that fact at some other group therapy session. Lol. 
But we also talked about the progress. Like the incident I wrote about earlier with my husband. A really tiny step for someone else but a huge step for me...... To recognize the feeling of hurt and verbalize it and demand him to respect my boundaries. It actually takes a lot when you yourself think that you are insignificant.

Group therapy today got quite emotional. For the first time I have spoken out loud about my feelings of not having any worth. And about how sad I am that I don’t have a connection with my parents who never calls me. About how I immediately after having had a conversation with a new aquiantance start to pick myself apart.... ”Why did I say that? Did he/she think that I’m too pushy? To rude? Snarky? Not a fun person to be with? He/she did... I probably was.... They will not like me....” I cried a bit. Actually I cried several times.... And then we laughed a bit at the fact that, since I am avoidant, I can still open up at these meetings, because I don’t know anyone there. And nobody knows my last name or where I live or where I work. I’m completely anonymous. And then I feel secure enough to open up. They can’t use my weakness against me... I’m so untrusting. Guess I’ll have to adress that fact at some other group therapy session. Lol. But we also talked about the progress. Like the incident I wrote about earlier with my husband. A really tiny step for someone else but a huge step for me...... To recognize the feeling of hurt and verbalize it and demand him to respect my boundaries. It actually takes a lot when you yourself think that you are insignificant. - 22 hours ago

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A secure attachment between child and caregiver is critical to a child's current and future well being. #attachmentparenting #attachmentstyles #attachmenttheory  #bonding  #safespace  #attunment  #synergeticplaytherapy  #buildingrelationships  #lovingparents  #securechildhood

A secure attachment between child and caregiver is critical to a child's current and future well being. #attachmentparenting #attachmentstyles #attachmenttheory #bonding #safespace #attunment #synergeticplaytherapy #buildingrelationships #lovingparents #securechildhood - 22 hours ago

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